More and better dances in the milongas for women
If you are a woman in tango, you have probably already invested thousands, if not tens of thousands, in group or private classes, milongas, bigger events, accommodation, and transportation, to dance.
And you probably want at least one of the following two things:
👉 Dance more when you want to dance more.
👉 Dance with better leaders who don’t pull you around and make you feel uncomfortable.
Better yet, you want to dance with leaders who know what they are doing.
If you are already leaving most milongas happy and 100% satisfied, you don’t need to read anything more;
I have nothing to give you.
BUT…
If you want more of what I described, keep reading.
How can you get more and better dances?
In January 2023, I sent a questionnaire directly to 16,000 social tango dancers, both men and women
This is what I asked them:
👉 I asked men what they observe that makes them want to dance with a woman and what they observe to decide not to dance with her.
👉 I asked women what they do when they want to dance more in milongas.
I received thousands of insights, tips, and strategies that you can apply regardless of your age, level, appearance, location, or whether you have a dance partner or not, to dance more and with better dancers.
If you allow me to send you 5 emails about the results of the research, this is what you are going to receive:
👉 3 strategies women use around the world to dance more
Women shared with me hundreds of wonderful ways to get more dances, ethically and with dignity. You’ll discover some of them in this email.
👉 3 of the most cited reasons by men on why they don’t dance with someone and what you can do about it.
Many women unfortunately don’t realise that accidentally they are perceived as not a good partner choice. But in most cases, this is just a misinterpretation by the men’s side, and we are going to see how to avoid this.
👉 3 of the most cited reasons by men on what they look for when observing the tables and how you might be sending the wrong signals without realizing it.
According to the responses of the survey, men seem to be looking for some very specific things. If you can simply help them see them, you are off to a great milonga.
👉 3 things you need to know when you want to dance more with advanced leaders.
Advanced leaders look for different qualities. Here you’ll discover three of those, so that your dance can be more enjoyable for both of you.
👉 An invitation to check the book ‘How to dance more in milongas‘ – available in English, French and Spanish on that topic.
See what other women said about those emails below.
That’s it.
You can type your email below, and if you want to know more about me, you can scroll a bit more.
What women who received the 5 emails said:
“I tried a few tips and I’ve noticed that I’m starting to get dances with some leaders from whom I never got miradas or cabeceos. Looking forward to the next emails!” – M. Neirynck
“Thank you for your email. Looking forward to Apply this on my next milonga :)” – Lisa Kresina
“Thank you for this great content! I have definitely seen some of these tips work in practice.“ – Kaitie Worobec
“It’s an interesting read. And I’ll use the cortina time more actively in the future. ” – Natalia M
“I will use the recommendations for the next milongas and pretty sure of the results!” – Yulia
“This is gold!” – John Putters
“I loved the information. It would be lovely to feel that other leaders ask me inspite of my “old age”.” – Eva
“I will share this with my friends.“ – Lisa Kresina
“Thank you for the great material and energy. This was an important support for me.” – Marta Mazur
“Thank you for these helpful tips!” – Gabriëlle
“What you are doing is great!” – Andreeva Silviya
“Thank you very much!” – Gloria Keller
“Received and read and shared! Thank you!” – Uta
“Thank you, really interesting.” – Nim Naomi
“All of your information is amazing :)) Thanks a million times.” – Tue Khanh Vu
“Thank you so much for putting so much effort into this. I am a fan of yours.” – Gaby Vorderbrueck Tavares
“Thank you so much for this project, this information is so valuable and I don’t think anyone would be able to amass this knowledge and these helpful hints without your work here, even with a lifetime of dancing! “ – Katie Winjum
““Thank you for sharing these valuable insights! I look forward to trying them out on the dance floor.“ – Natalia M”
“Thank you, I really appreciate your emails, they are very useful.“ – Boglarka Ban
“Thank you for sending these out! Always happy to learn how to get more dances.“ – Kate M
“Very practical tips. Thank you for your initiative. I will definitely use it in practice.“ – Gosia
“Thank you for emails! I am pleasantly surprised at how interesting and important things I just read here and learned😊 Can’t wait for the next email!“ – Helena Eurén
“Thanks for the email. Your research is fascinating.“ – Andrea Keim
“Thanks for this email. I’m waiting for more 😀” – Anna Michlik
“Thank you for the emails. The pre-cabeceo-lock-eyes-briefly-thingy sounds good. I will try that.” – Gael Schiff
“Thank you for your email, it was very useful.” – Styliani Stalla
“Thank you for the most interesting read! Thank you for the useful tips. It was quite interesting!” – Ana Vivoda
“Food for thought.” – Ali Wer
“Thank you, Dimitris!!” – Janet Lott
“Thank you.” – Sanda
“Thank you for your mail, it is very interesting! You are doing a great work helpingthe community of tango and this wonderful dance to grow more and more.” – Barbara Martinini
“Thank you. Great to have data based insights.” – Ekin Sakin
“It’s good to have it all stated clearly and backed up by your survey. I also appreciate your mentioning seeking more dances in a way that doesn’t compromise our ethics or dignity.” – Kathleen Karlyn
“Received and read and shared! Thank you!” – Uta
“Thank you for the email about [dancing more with] advanced leaders :)” – Sanda Majurec
“Some interesting points I had not necessarily thought of. Thank you.” – Katia Novet Saint-Lot
“Thank you for sharing this valuable knowledge!” – Dora Varadi
“Thank you for this!” – Merica Ritter
“Thank you very much for your email. It was helpful reading it. I am looking forward to the next one.” – Liljana Sokolovska
“Thanks for the tips.” – Ana Tadic
“Thanks for the email Dimitris. Looking forward to reading more!” – Phoebe
“Thank you!” – Diane
“Thank you for your email. Looking forward to Apply this on my next milonga :)” – Lisa Kresina
“It’s an interesting read, and it gave me some food for thought. And I’ll use the cortina time more actively in the future. ” – Natalia M
“Thank you for the email. A few interesting points to consider.” – Beverley Hubbard
“Thanks for putting in all the work to gather this info!” – Sabine Ibes
“Thank you.” – Outi Lehtonen
“Thank you for the email.” – Katie Winjum
“Thank you, Nice read!” – Daniela Konrath
“Thanks, it is very interesting.” – Slavica Kranjec Mirt
“Thank you for the interesting mail.” – Melinda Hauri
“I don’t dance long enough to be sure of my own conclusions. You have confirmed some of them and opened up new points of view. It was very useful for me to look at the situation through the eyes of leaders. I will use the recommendations for the next milongas and pretty sure of the results!” – Yulia
“Thank you very much for this. The pre-cabeceo is an interesting idea, and also the right timing for a chat.” – Anne Katrin
“Great ideas, thank you!” – Mary Jane Setterberg
“Thank you Dimitris, I will read this with great interest!” – Sylvie Jalbert
“Thank you!” – Lioudmila Alexeenko
“Thank you very much for this email. I have already learned a lot and I am looking forward to the next part” – Evelyne Cohen
“Thank you for the effort you have given to making Tango a place to experience joy and connection ~~ and helping followers understand what they can do to facilitate that!” – Janeen Rae
“Thank you very much, it seems to be very interesting.” – Lyne Laflamme
“Very interesting, thank you for the info about getting more dances at the Milonga.” – Madeline Lees
“Thank you, Dimitris!!” – Krisztina Polgárdi
“Thank you for the email.” – Kristin Jentoftsdatter
“Thank you for the email.” – Lynn Fraser
“Thank you for the fascinating and valuable insights!” – Jo-Anne Ridgway
“Thank you for sending me the second email. Just like the first one, I read it with interest.” – Natalia M
“Thank you so much for yet another super interesting email!” – Doutzen Wagenaar
“Thank you for the email. It was valuable info. I am curious about the next emails. :)” – Gabriela Bica
“This email made me feel nice and positive.” – Lili Sokolovska
“Thanks for your email. I am a pretty experienced dancer and have drawn a few conclusions myself about this phenomenon over the years, but it is great to read results of the survey and also hear another person’s view, as this is a slightly taboo topic in terms of conversation… Looking forward to hearing more from you.” – Maya Kumar Mitchell
“Great information.” – Beverley Hubbard
“Thank you for the e-mail :)” – Andrada Coman
“Very good advice.” – Evelyne Cohen
“Oh my goodness a lot of what you listed rings true to me, thank you.“ – Christine Williams
“Many thanks for your email. Very useful.“ – Sue Walker
“I find this very useful. I’m sure I’ll get back to these notes again. Looking forward to more!“ – Natalia M
“Interesting reading. Thank you so much.“ – Nina Langbak
“My warm thanks to you for this email. It’s useful.“ – Päivi Toikkanen
“Thank you very interesting!“ – Sarah Laver
“Valuable insights, thank you.“ – Daniela Konrath
“Interesting thoughts.“ – Andrada Coman
“Interessing points.“ – Melinda Hauri
“Thank you very much for this.“ – Annekatrin Hegewald
““Thank you very much, I finally took the time to read all your e-mails, they all have something interesting. I am waiting for the next one.“ – Lyne Laflamme
“Wow, thanks!!“ – Sandra
“I have to read this often. Lots of good information!“ – Sandra
“Extremely interesting and genuine the way you present. Keep on, you are doing a great job!“ – Simona Frățilă
“Thank you, it’s useful.“ – HanhDu Nguyen
“Thank you for your first mail, I enjoyed it.“ – Alla Kudryashova
“Thanks for the tips!“ – Lara Lopes
“Thank you!“ – Nicola Carusi
“I liked reading it!“ – Anna Malenkov
““Thank you for sharing these valuable insights!
I look forward to trying them out on the dance floor.“ – Natalia M”
“Loving your advice, what excellent data you have collected and shared.“ – Jilly
“I appreciate this e-mail much. “ – Ula Jedynak
“Thank you for the messages about dancing more and better in milongas. I appreciate the ideas.“ – Astrid Vik Stronen
“Dimitris, thank you again for taking on this project, and I looking forward to receiving the further detail. “ – Nicola Carusi
““Thank you for this great content! I have definitely seen some of these tips work in practice.
“ – Kaitie Worobec”
“Great job Dimitris! Thank you very much.“ – Carmen Rodriguez Alvarez
“Thank you! Very interesting! I’ll be waiting for the next tips!“ – Sofia Carreiro
“Thank you for emails! I am pleasantly surprised how interesting and importants things I just read here and learned😊 Can’t wait for the next email!“ – Helena Eurén
“Thank you so much for taking the time and effort to conduct this research, analyze the results, and offer to share your findings with others tangueros like me! I love tango and I love data, so I’m thrilled by the work you’re doing. I also feel grateful for the opportunity to hear what other leaders and followers think and feel in this complex dance and community. Thanks for making the time for this project, and I look forward to hearing where it goes from here!“ – Jacqueline Pham
“Thanks for sharing! I’m learning important stuff.“ – Lara Lopes
“Thanks for sharing! “ – Gozde
“Thanks for the very interesting “Curious Tanguero Tips”“ – Jutta-Valeska Hinz
“Thank you. I wait for the next email.“
“Thank you for the email and the insights. I find it interesting to learn about what you said in note 1: that ”It helps looking (and smiling) toward the open side of the embrace.” “ – Gabriela Bica
“Thank you very much for your email and the valuable info that you offered to me for free, as an example of the quality of your programme. I really appreciate what you shared and although some of the key points were intuitive, the solution to achieve the desired result was not, so I appreciate that you gave me examples (like how to be noticed that I was dancing). “ – Gabriela Bica #2
““It was verry interesting to find out this information. I am a beginner in this dance but I love it and I want to dance more at the milongas. My challenge is to do the mirada. I hope to get out of my comfort zone as I become more advanced.“ – Onoria Gaspar”
Who am I?
I am Dimitris Bronowski.
My goal is to bring more tango to people and more people to tango.
What brings me happiness is to help others discover hope and live life with enthusiasm.
You might know me as:
1) the creator of the Tango Kindness challenge that reached over 30,000 tanguer@s and had the goal to bring more kindness to the milongas.
2) the author of Tangofulness, a book available in 11 languages. Its goal is to help tango dancers enjoy the milongas more and discover a deeper connection in tango.
3) the person who grew the Tango Partner app to 15,000 people. An app that is free for all, both social dancers and professionals, that helps tango dancers find events and connect with tango communities around the world, so they can dance more.
4) the co-author and editor of the book Tango Tips by the Maestros, an Amazon bestseller, that brought together 40 tango teachers who wanted to share some helpful chapters with dancers like you.
5) the author of the Curious Tanguero newsletter, a weekly newsletter with tango tips and advice that helped me and my partner improve our tango over the last 14 years,
…or other tango projects created to help tango dancers.
That’s what I do.
I create free resources and paid programs and services designed to help social tango dancers.
When I don’t do that, I dance tango and take classes with wonderful tango teachers around the world, play with my son, go out with my wife, spin on my pole (yep, guys do pole dancing too), exercise, take long walks listening to audiobooks, breathe, read, and remember to hug and let go.
Life is a wonderful adventure, and I live it with a smile on my face.
I hope I can bring a smile to your face too.
Dimitris